Is Mr. C aware that you haven't even filed for divorce yet?
How old is Mr. C? Has he gone through divorce or a long term relationship breakup?
And, if he is ready for a relationship, then you should be honest with him. Tell him your feelings. Explain your position of not being ready because you are confused. But, that doesn't mean you shoo him off. It just means you are making him aware that you want the friend ship and it may lead to more - but if it does lead to more, it will be at a pace that you are comfortable with. If he's willing to be patient things may work. If he's not willng to be patient, don't let him influence your feelings.
He may not understand because he's never been in your shoes, divorce, heartbreak, hurtfeelings, adjustments, emotions, thrown into resposibilites and adulthood you weren't prepared for, etc.
He may not understand, just because he's a guy (the whole "men are from mars, women from venus" thing) and he doesn't understand what the whole "relationship" thing means to you, and it could mean differently to him.
Or, he may not understand because he's an ignorant idiot who is only interested in what is under your clothes and he can't understand why you are holding out on him... He wants to say "shut up and screw me" but he knows if he did he wouldn't get it, so he plays the "nice guy" hoping you'll volunterily jump his bones.
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