That people keep coming back because of the odd strike; ie it is like wining every now and then while gambling or seeing other people win; it keeps you coming back; that goal just seems to be right infront of you. That is why lotteries have instant win prizes etc.
The hard part is realizing any of that. I pretty well had to give up on finding anyone before I slowed down enough to get anywhere. Before that I alternated between being remote and being so intense; nobody wanted to keep close.
One person posted that nobody will help you on your quest to change. But I can't swallow that. There are lots of gropus that are great for support; for working on depression or drinking problems or assertivness or a host of other problems. Friends will go so far and so will family. There are lots of people who want to help; but too much emotional intensity will drive them away.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
I'm becoming a bit of a cynic.
I know women who meet guys thru the net; but I can't say that it works very well the other way. But for everyone, men and women, part of the solution is to have a life; to have interests; to be curious and to explore the world, perhaps by travel or reading or study or whatever. It is an aimless kind of thing. It gets you to no particular place quickly and it sure isn't a direct way to get dates. But it is a start and it gives one a purpose in life. It gives you something to talk about and share with others. There is nothing like being curious to help one ask questions. Similarily, there is nothing like some personal explorat- ion to give one something to talk about.
The idea
The idea of blacks and whites dating, once highly divisive, is now broadly accepted.
There also has been a steady decline in the number of Americans who say they have little in common with people of other races.
There also has been a steady decline in the number of Americans who say they have little in common with people of other races.
Friday, May 25, 2007
I wonder if women get foused like men?
They seem to be more fatalistic. They like to believe that it was either ment or not ment to be. Meanwhile guys try to set things up; create oportunities etc.
They just like to believe that they didn't try hard enough or did something wrong. Why do we have 1-900-big-boys? Well, guys like a direct solution to a known problem. It is just that all the guys who I know tend to be nice and educated and all; and it is not as if we ever really get any replies to our personal adverts on the net or in newspapers and it is not as if we get replies to our letters in response to someone elses advert.
We just keep on trying in various ways; but I'd never consider a phone chat line as good for much more than ego stroking noise. But it tends only to be that for the women since they are greatly out- numbered by the men.
They just like to believe that they didn't try hard enough or did something wrong. Why do we have 1-900-big-boys? Well, guys like a direct solution to a known problem. It is just that all the guys who I know tend to be nice and educated and all; and it is not as if we ever really get any replies to our personal adverts on the net or in newspapers and it is not as if we get replies to our letters in response to someone elses advert.
We just keep on trying in various ways; but I'd never consider a phone chat line as good for much more than ego stroking noise. But it tends only to be that for the women since they are greatly out- numbered by the men.
Tell your someone
*Tell your someone that you'd like to go out with him. The worst that you can get is rejection.
*People online can be expert impersonators with hidden agendas. They may be anyone from pedophiles to drug dealers to undercover cops. I
*t's possible to have feelings for someone you've never seen, but keep your sense of humor about it and don't go too overboard unless and until you've met that person physically.
*People online can be expert impersonators with hidden agendas. They may be anyone from pedophiles to drug dealers to undercover cops. I
*t's possible to have feelings for someone you've never seen, but keep your sense of humor about it and don't go too overboard unless and until you've met that person physically.
Monday, May 21, 2007
A lesson learned?
Again, I wholeheartedly agree - but for many of these folks, the dating scene is the immediate forum (for them at least) wherein their battle for personhood seems won or lost. Looking back now - in my own case, I feel I would have become a more mature, fully developed person - mentally and emotionally - had I spent *less* time getting involved with very unsavory women - merely to say I was 'dating' or 'in a relationship'.
If I had it to do over I think I might have spent more time - if I was on campus, in getting involved in various volunteer efforts. And - strange as it may seem, genuine relationships often blossom as a result of such involvement - in which 'dating' is not sought as an end in itself.
If I had it to do over I think I might have spent more time - if I was on campus, in getting involved in various volunteer efforts. And - strange as it may seem, genuine relationships often blossom as a result of such involvement - in which 'dating' is not sought as an end in itself.
"Shy? Lonely?"
Why is it that on the shyness newsgroup all everyone wants to talk about is dating, dating, dating?! A lot of people have shyness problems in other areas of life and probably should deal with those first before they worry about finding the girl or guy of their dreams.
On top of it, because of this over fixation on trying to get a date, we have to put up with these intelligence-insulting I think some people are so fixated on the dating scene that they aren't very aware of how their shyness has affected them in other ways that maybe ought to be addressed more quickly.
On top of it, because of this over fixation on trying to get a date, we have to put up with these intelligence-insulting I think some people are so fixated on the dating scene that they aren't very aware of how their shyness has affected them in other ways that maybe ought to be addressed more quickly.
Are you a divorced or widowed
Are you a divorced or widowed 40- or 50-something Middle Tennessean who's getting back into the dating scene?
If so, we want to talk to you about what's new in dating and what's different from the days before you were married. Are you suddenly thinking about sexually transmitted disease you've never had to consider? Do you have other health concerns? Are you noticing any positive mental health benefits to dating the second time around?
Instead of going to bars and restaurants looking for that special someone, get a helping hand by joining the ranks of the online dating community. According to Online Dating Magazine, more than 20 million people visit at least one online dating.
Check this hot site: www.bizdating5.com
If so, we want to talk to you about what's new in dating and what's different from the days before you were married. Are you suddenly thinking about sexually transmitted disease you've never had to consider? Do you have other health concerns? Are you noticing any positive mental health benefits to dating the second time around?
Instead of going to bars and restaurants looking for that special someone, get a helping hand by joining the ranks of the online dating community. According to Online Dating Magazine, more than 20 million people visit at least one online dating.
Check this hot site: www.bizdating5.com
Saturday, May 19, 2007
Actor Orlando Bloom admits
LONDON: Actor Orlando Bloom admits that he has difficulties dating and finding the right woman in his life. Bloom, after splitting from long-time girlfriend Kate Bosworth, has been having trouble finding the right dates.
"I find the whole datingOrlando Bloom has been involved with some of the hottest women in Hollywood, but the actor insists that he finds the dating game “very hard”. London, May 18 (ANI): Orlando Bloom has been involved with some of the hottest women in Hollywood, but still have difficulty finding the special mate.
"I find the whole datingOrlando Bloom has been involved with some of the hottest women in Hollywood, but the actor insists that he finds the dating game “very hard”. London, May 18 (ANI): Orlando Bloom has been involved with some of the hottest women in Hollywood, but still have difficulty finding the special mate.
Dating Services are not for losers
Sexbots will be, though. When affordable high-quality sexbots reach the market, losers will no longer have to suffer the indignity of being reminded that your dating service is not for them.
You can look at a person better by meeting that person in real life. Reading about that person is a bit harder, but eventually we will all carry with us a direct mind link to the Internet so we can download full dossiers on anybody who will sit still long enough for a retinal scan.
But it won't be much use by then because we will have sex robots which will be better than any person we can just go out and attract.
You can look at a person better by meeting that person in real life. Reading about that person is a bit harder, but eventually we will all carry with us a direct mind link to the Internet so we can download full dossiers on anybody who will sit still long enough for a retinal scan.
But it won't be much use by then because we will have sex robots which will be better than any person we can just go out and attract.
The dating scene is changing
The dating scene is changing to keep up with busy young professionals. Head out to downtown Albany on almost any night of the week and you're sure to find attractive, single, young professionals who seem to be looking for the same thing.
Thursday, May 17, 2007
Answer to the previous question.............
"The Talk" begins the first time your child asks, "Where did I come from?" Based on age you give the appropriate response. Example: To a five year old you would say, "You came from Heaven, and to get you down here on Earth with us, God put you in my belly. Then Daddy and I went to the hospital when God told us it was time and a doctor took you out of my belly."
In that scenario you did not lie, but it was the kind of truth a child could understand. Children should be allowed to date in groups at 12-13 years old. If its not a school night and there homework is done and they are making reasonable grades.
In that scenario you did not lie, but it was the kind of truth a child could understand. Children should be allowed to date in groups at 12-13 years old. If its not a school night and there homework is done and they are making reasonable grades.
Dating...?
what's a good age to start dating? how do u know if ur ready? i sometimes feel like i want to start dating but i'm never sure. my parents won't let me start dating until i get to university, but i'm just wondering.
You think the dating scene can be cold and unforgiving?
It may not be half as frosty as the tempestuous relationship between two of the biggest players in the online dating business.The complaint offers a glimpse into the online dating world, which has grown into a big-money business, with only a few major players.
The biggest reason for rejection, it says, is that the applicant is married. Stunningly, nearly one-third of the company's rejects (30 percent) fell into this category. Others are blocked because they're younger than the minimum application age of 21 (27 percent) or because the applicant gives inconsistent answers (9 percent), based on responses to eHarmony's 258-question application.
The biggest reason for rejection, it says, is that the applicant is married. Stunningly, nearly one-third of the company's rejects (30 percent) fell into this category. Others are blocked because they're younger than the minimum application age of 21 (27 percent) or because the applicant gives inconsistent answers (9 percent), based on responses to eHarmony's 258-question application.
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
"Speed-dating" for producers desperately seeking backers
CANNES, France (AFP) - "Speed-dating" for producers desperately seeking backers is the new buzz at the Cannes film market opening Thursday on the sidelines of the world's paramount film festival.
With 10,000 directors, distributors and producers on hand for a 12-day frenzy of deals worth an estimated billion dollars, the Cannes Market, the film world's biggest, works to keep its edge over rival trade fairs, its director Jerome Paillard told AFP
With 10,000 directors, distributors and producers on hand for a 12-day frenzy of deals worth an estimated billion dollars, the Cannes Market, the film world's biggest, works to keep its edge over rival trade fairs, its director Jerome Paillard told AFP
Saturday, May 12, 2007
But how do you find them?
To learn from men who are already great with women, make it a point to go out to the hot spots in your area and simply WATCH what’s going on.Look for the really attractive women who are with guys, and how the guys are BEHAVING.It’s also a good idea to watch the guys who are picking up -- or TRYING to pick up -- women and see what they’re doing.Pay attention to the body language of these guys, and see how women respond to them. Also watch the gestures, and if it’s not too loud, listen for the voice tone of these guys, and make a note if women are smiling and responding positively or if they’re looking for an escape route.
Friday, May 4, 2007
Dating tests
Double blind tests are especially useful in testing peoples reactions but not much help in testing machines. If your worried that scientist are fudging the results don't be to concerned as the strengths and weaknesses of the dating methods are well documented. Scientist are unconcerned with the Creation - Evolution debate, for them it ended over 150 years ago when geologist discovered the multiple stratigraphic layers under the surface of the earth.
Tuesday, May 1, 2007
defending dating methods
I read an article defending dating methods. It seems the bottom line is, you can't just send a rock or fossil or what have you to a lab and get an accurate date. You have to have a dating expert collect the rock as well.
Is it too much to hope for a blind dating method (no, not as in a blind date)? You can send blood to a lab without knowing where you got the blood and find out all sorts of information from it. Will we ever get a dating method that can do similarly?
Is it too much to hope for a blind dating method (no, not as in a blind date)? You can send blood to a lab without knowing where you got the blood and find out all sorts of information from it. Will we ever get a dating method that can do similarly?
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