I'm becoming a bit of a cynic.

I know women who meet guys thru the net; but I can't say that it works very well the other way. But for everyone, men and women, part of the solution is to have a life; to have interests; to be curious and to explore the world, perhaps by travel or reading or study or whatever. It is an aimless kind of thing. It gets you to no particular place quickly and it sure isn't a direct way to get dates. But it is a start and it gives one a purpose in life. It gives you something to talk about and share with others. There is nothing like being curious to help one ask questions. Similarily, there is nothing like some personal explorat- ion to give one something to talk about.